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Question #1:

My 2 years girlfriend almost left me for another guy, what should I do now?

I've been in love with this girl for the last 2 years, she is 28 and I am 30, good education, job, income and have been very caring about her and she has been so much in love with me (at least that is what I understood), our only issue was that why I am not proposing to her, I got the ring and told her I have the ring, but I kept delaying proposing for stupid reasons, but I really cared about her wanted her as my wife. After I decided I am ready to propose and we get engaged, I started to notice she is in touch with another guy through txt at the beginning and later they were going out together and were so much emotionally attached. She still tells me she is thinking about us to see if she can come back or leaves me. She wakes up next to me in the morning with his txt msg and so excited, talks to him in our house and goes to trip and ask me not to come, I know it sounds disgusting and I hate myself to keep up doing this, but I am so much afraid of loosing her to him, and I truly love and she was my only friend beside being my girl friend, I mean I could easily talk about anything to her. Finally I spent couple thousands dollars on couple therapy which was just excuse for her that she wanted to try things, but this new guy kept getting more and more into her heart and I kept pushing and begging more and more to have me back. One night I was so tired of my life and drank a whole bottle of vodka with piles of pills and ended up in hospital for a week. Anyway, she still sees the guy and is so excited about him, but she keeps telling me let's give us time to think about things, maybe we can work it out, but waiting for me just means she makes sure she is happy with other guy. now we are supposed not see each other or talk to each other for 2 weeks, but I am pretty sure she spends all her time with him and most probably they have slept together too. But, I can't let her go, It was 2 years of emotional investment for me and she had everything I admire in a girl. All I did was delaying proposing for couple of months, but does that justifies to jump on another guy which is younger than her and doesn't have any outlook to propose to her in next 5 years! what should I do when I know I pushed her back and back by telling her I love her so much and she is my everything and spending money on expensive gifts and trips to have her back, but whatever step I take makes her 10 steps away. I am at breaking point mentally and physically due to starvation and lack of sleep, almost dysfunctional at work and has no motivation to even live any longer. I put all my eggs in one basket and don't know what do to. If she would tell me for 100% that she loves him and wants to be with him could be easier for me to move on, but she keeps giving me false hopes and when I know the details of their relationship I feel sick and I get disgusted from my own weakness. what is the solution for the pain? it is beyond my capacity, I am not sure how long I can carry the pain around and seeing her being happy with this new guy when I did nothing wrong in my relationship and tried my best to fix things that looked like could be improved.

Question #2:

Is it ok to be 21 and to be undecided with life?

I have no direction right at this point in time with my life. And when I grab an odd job I lose it because I have no motivation to stay there.

Question #3:

Motivation gets you going and habit gets you there...agree?

Question #4:

What's my motivation?

I really don't feel like doing homework, but I've got 30 minutes to be alive and 100% conscious and I don't want people to think I slept on 3-7-10 as a procrastinator who didn't do her homework. Why do we even do this crap? I mean, it's not like I will ever become something in life dealing with language arts, lab assistant at most dealing with language arts, but to do that you don't need to make 6-word memoirs! And history, do I really need to memorize what color Christopher Columbus's eyes were in order to figure out if my food is poisonous or not? so seriously, I have my own motivation for algebra, physics, and my other classes, but none for social studies or language arts. Is there even a motivation?
Well my school is stupid and doesn't offer Philosophy as a class!
I've already got A+'s in science and algebra and A-'s in Language Arts and Social Studies! I just want to know if I will ever actually get a job that will require me to know what color Roger Sherman's eyes were!
It's not like we actually do anything in class... we watch peers hug and stalk our teachers.

Question #5:

Do you think im depressed, or is it hormones?

I feel like nobody truly cares about me even my bestfriend..she tells me she loves me no matter what and i it makes me feel better for like 10 min then it just goes away. I used to play basketball up until this year..i miss it a lot..im the manager for our varsity team but i still miss it..and i feel so detached and like i dont belong with my teammates from last year..it makes me really sad, I get so angry and sad all the time and i dont know why..i can think of some reasons like these but they dont seem like enough, i think about suicide..somedays a lot..some just a little..but still. When im with my friends at school, im happy on the outside..i make my friends laugh and smile..im constantly wearing a smile..but half of the time..im crying inside. It makes me even more angry and sad that nobody can tell that im this way even my family or closest friends. I dont like being around people that much. I dont have much motivation to do anything but school..i take adv classes and get A's and B's but sometimes school even brings me down. I have hard times making decisions, im really scared of failure. I wish i knew why i felt this way tho..it makes me cry all the time and i never know why..im confused and it pisses me off. Sometimes my thoughts scare me and make me cry even more.

Question #6:

How can i motivate myself to go to the gym?

I used to go 3 days a week for 1 hour. Then i got busy with school, and then i completely stopped for a month, then i started going 2 days a week. ughh, i haven't been in 2 weeks.
I would like to go 5 days this week but i have trouble getting myself to go.

Have any tips?
If you want to tell me to get off my lazy butt and go then don't bother answering...that's the whole purpose in this question, to get off my lazy butt and go. I need motivation.

Question #7:

Losing weight...please read (: i need tips/advice/motivation!?

Hey (:
Im 182 pounds and im 14-16 years old! i've tried losing weight before but i gave up (:
i also have really bad social anxiety so im not really wanting to go out in public or to a gym!
i always eat junk because its easier to have and im used to it.
i have a wii fit but its getting motivated to go on it every night?
what advice/motivationt/tips would you give thank you :D

Question #8:

How to get motivated to finish an essay?

I have a four page, double spaced essay due (at the latest), March 19. I only have a page and a half. I know I need to get it done but can't seem to find the motivation to do so.

Help?

Question #9:

Do people on here ever read the blogs by Aps/Paps?

I have and some of their issues I find repulsive. Some I've had to unfortunately deal with in my adoptive american family.

Do you feel pity or sorry for Aps/Paps that can't have children naturally because they never developed a healthy workout routine and overeat unhealthy food?

Why would they expect pity because they chose to become and remain obese?

What do you think Jillian Michaels from the show "the biggest losers" would tell or suggest to them?

Should I make my Adoptive american parents watch the show for motivation?

Thanks for your advice in advance. Take care.

Question #10:

Motivation to stay vegan? and vegan lunchbox ideas?

I'm a high schooler and I usually pack my lunch. I'm seriously considering going vegan (i've tried once before but I ended up quitting) and I need some good lunch ideas that I can pack that don't have to be refrigerated:) Any advice would be great.

Also one more question for people who've been vegans for awhile; how should i keep myself motivated to stay vegan and not quit?

Question #11:

What happened after they told you they didn't want you no more?

Have you ever been dumped, divorced, or told by someone they didn't want you no more? After this happened what did you change or do to boost your confidence, or self esteem, and did this help you achieve winning this person back, or getting someone better? I want to hear some motivation.
Aren't there things you can do physically, or mentally for self improvement? I didn't say I wanted to change for some guy, I just wanted to hear "your story" ....???

Question #12:

How to deal with stress when you have a VERY loud family?

My family is awfully loud and I can't take it anymore. I'm the quiet one who likes to come home and study but its very difficult when your family is so loud. I come home from high school and my brother is blasting his loud heavy metal music to give him motivation while he works out--for about an hour and a half. Then after that my mom works out for a bit over an hour, blasting her even louder music. This just makes me so angry. My brother comes home from school at 12:50 as he has a spare, and sometimes I ask him "Why can't you just work out at 12:50 rather than 3:00 (which is when I get home from school" and he says that he doesn't want to mess up his work out schedule and he doesn't care.

My family is just so loud I can't take it. In fact they're yelling right now as a I type. I've lost my concentration. I'm so stressed out that I've become suicidal. I feel what's the point of living life when you're always stressed? How can I get my family to stop being so loud. Am I just being a whiny brat?
I would love to go to the library but I don't know how to drive yet even though I am 16. Should I try to set up arrangements for me to go to the library? For example, maybe my grandfather or cousin can drive me.

Question #13:

do you think i'm depressed?

Question #14:

I dont know how to raise my motivation...?

im wanting to lose weight before summer gets here, i make myself think that im going to do it but when it comes to actually doing it i put it off. any hints on what to do?

Question #15:

Why aren't GOP donors offended by party fundraisers and the leaked confidential party fundraising presentation?

"What can you sell when you do not have the White House, the House, or the Senate...?" it asks.

The answer: "Save the country from trending toward Socialism!”

The small donors who are the targets of direct marketing are described under the heading “Visceral Giving.” Their motivations are listed as “fear;” “Extreme negative feelings toward existing Administration;” and “Reactionary.”

Major donors, by contrast, are treated in a column headed “Calculated Giving.”

Their motivations include: “Peer to Peer Pressure”; “access”; and “Ego-Driven.”

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Question #16:

Why can't you do anything when you're hungry?

Like you don't have the motivation to do any work

Question #17:

how long will it take be to qualify for IFBB mr olympia?

i never pushed any weight in my life (none)..how long would it take me to train with the motivation of arnold (swarsnegger).. ronnie (colemen) and lou (ferrigno) combined in one to get qualified for mr olympia..

god bless and train hard

Question #18:

What is the motivation for someone to kiss a corpse in a casket?

What is the motivation for someone to kiss a corpse in a casket? What does that kiss symbolize.

Question #19:

Do people understand?

I see people asking about suicide. Responses will say...
"Suicide is selfish. If you can't live your life, live it for someone else."
I just don't think people who say this had ever been truly suicidal. They don't understand, when you're depressed, you feel like other people are selfish for not understanding your pain. And even if they did, they'd still be selfish for wanting you to stay with them in what seems like hell. And you can't just decide to live for someone else because you can't even get the motivation to get out of bed or do anything with your life, no matter how hard you try.

"Well thats just stupid. If you dont like your life, change it."
It's just not that simple. Even if his/her situation isn't permanent, he'll definitely feel like it is. The worst thing about depression is the hopelessness.

What I'm getting at, if you don't understand, don't answer their questions. You make them feel even more isolated.

Now, my question, only for people who have been truly depressed/suicidal: How'd you get over it? Is it even possible to?
Jason, you could email me.
Just go to my profile and click the email button.

Question #20:

Could it be Schizophrenia? I need an opinion please.?

I have OCD and Depression... but Lots of my symptoms are worse than I expected. I took some time and really looked at my situation and I need an opinion before I talk to my Psychiatrist. My symptoms:

--A blank, vacant facial expression. (I have been told by friends)
--Overly acute senses- lights are too bright, sounds are too loud. (Typically it's lights)
--Staring, while in deep thought, with infrequent blinking. (Done this a lot, even when I was a child.)
--Clumsy, inexact motor skills (I trip over myself frequently.)
--Sleep disturbances- insomnia or excessive sleeping (I have insomnia and find myself unable to sleep and I end up getting only 3 hours of sleep on most days.)
--Parkinsonian type symptoms- rigidity, tremor, jerking arm movements, or involuntary movements of the limbs (I shake and jerk randomly)
--An awkward gait (how you walk) (Friends tell me I walk very very weird.)
--Unusual gestures or postures (I will get 'stuck' in awkward positions and have 30 minute staring periods)
--Movement is speeded up- i.e. constant pacing (I will pace my room and quite often when I go over to my parents house etc.)

Feelings/Emotions----

--The inability to experience joy or pleasure from activities (I will do something very accomplishing, but loved ones will tell me that I don't show it.)
--Sometimes feeling nothing at all (I sometimes don't show any emotions, some say I'll be extremely expressionless.)
--Feeling detached from your own body (depersonalization) (I get this feeling where I feel like I'm not myself or inside my body... like I'm floating.)
--Hypersensitivity to criticism, insults, or hurt feelings (I will get into rages and get infuriated with any sort of criticism I don't like or insults or anything that hurts my feelings. This is commonly excessive, and not typical anger.)

Mood----

--Sudden irritability, anger, hostility, suspiciousness, resentment (I can be very loving, then will all of a sudden fill with intense anger. I sometimes will start banging my fists on pillows or walls and will hyperventilate.)
--Depression- feeling discouraged and hopeless about the future (I am diagnosed with Depression.)
--Low motivation, energy (I am extremely running on low batteries all the time.)
--Rapidly changing mood- from happy to sad to angry for no apparent reason (All the time.)
--Severe Anxiety (OCD and Voices that worry me.)

Changes in Behavior associated with schizophrenia ----

--Inability to form or keep relationships (Constantly. I can make friends easily, but then I slowly lose them and have a hard time repairing bonds.)
--Social isolation- few close friends if any. Little interaction outside of immediate family. (Most of the time)
--Increased withdrawal, spending most of the days alone. (Most of the time)
--Becoming lost in thoughts and not wanting to be disturbed with human contact (Most of the time)
--Replaying or rehearsing conversations out loud- i.e. talking to yourself ( I hear voices, and have heard voices ever since I was little. I would hear very gruesome and hurtful voices, and then those that where nice and loving.)
--Finding it difficult to deal with stressful situations (I go into panic attacks when stressed)
--Inability to cope with minor problems (Most of the times)
--Deterioration of academic or job-related performance (I went from an A student to getting C's and below.)
--Inappropriate responses- laughing or smiling when talking of a sad event, making irrational statements. (I will laugh randomly often at sad or depressing situations, and I will make extremely irrational statements paired with awkward beliefs.)
--Intense and excessive preoccupation with religion or spirituality (I will pray more times a day because I feel that I have sinned... or I will constantly think that God is very angry with me, and constantly damn myself to hell.)
--Frequent moves, trips, or walks that lead nowhere (I have taken close family friends on long walks and often lead them nowhere, I end up panicking not knowing where I am.

Examples of Cognitive Problems Associated with Schizophrenia ----

--Ruminating thoughts- these are the same thoughts that go around and round your head but get you nowhere. Often about past disappointments, missed opportunities, failed relationships. (Common with my OCD)

--Lack of insight (called anosognosia). Those who are developing schizophrenia are unaware that they are becoming sick. (I had this in the beginning before I was told that my irrational hallucinations where abnormal.)
--Racing thoughts
--In conversation you tend to say very little (Commonly)
--Suddenly halting speech in the middle of a sentence (thought blocking) (Commonly)
--Difficulty expressing thoughts verbally. Or not having much to say about anything. (commonly)
--Speaking in an abstract or tangential way. Odd use of words or language structure (Most of the time)
--Difficulty focusing attention and engaging in goal directed behavior (I l

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